Mirror

"Talk to the Mirror teaches us to be our own best coach and awaken a whole new world of self-esteem and empowerment. This is a must-read book for women of all ages–it is time to make ourselves #1 and use our powerful women’s intuition to reach our true personal potential!"
–Maxine Clark, founder and Chief Executive Bear, Build-A-Bear Workshop

"Is how I perceive my image in the mirror the way other people actually see me when they look at me, or do I look different to myself than I do to other people, the same way I look a little different in still photographs than I do in real life?"

Here's a fun little experiment you can do to figure it out. Get two mirrors and set them up opposite of one another and at a slight angle, so that you can see yourself in profile in one mirror if you look into the opposite one. Do you look the same when you look at yourself reflected in two mirrors, from the side, as you do when you look at yourself straight on in one mirror? You don't. The way we see ourselves is shaped by a lot of things - the lighting, what we're wearing, how we feel that day, what our hair is doing, what angle we're looking at ourselves from... and just our general self image. Some days are better than others because you are in a better mood, and that mood really does affect your view of yourself. Other people don't have that distorted self-image lens to look through, so they see us differently than we see ourselves.

Mirror Work is a very powerful exercise to increase Self-Esteem and remind us of our excellence. When we look into the mirror, most of us are used to criticizing what we see and focusing on what needs "fixing." It can be very difficult to look into the mirror and tell yourself "I love you and accept you completely." The mirror reflects our feelings and tells us what we need to change in ourselves. Your light shines so brightly that others can't help but be attracted to you and want to know your secret.

For certain people what they see in the mirror is what others see because they believe that what you see yourself as others will see. On the other hand, you have people who can't stand to look at their refection but there are others (friends, family, and even strangers) that see all the things that that person cannot. So they try their hardest to help them see what the mirror cannot.