How do you really know that the person with you right now is "The One"?

No one can ever tell for sure if the person they are with is the right one. Only time tends to reveal that. Furthermore, knowing that the person is "The One" is a very individual experience. No two people's experience in love will be the same so it is difficult to apply any general theory to falling in love or recognising the 'Chosen One'. However, there are some reasons why some people might fail to spot the people for them - three in particular.

1. The first reason is FEAR. When people are afraid to give their heart, fail to trust or fail to give commitment, they seldom fall in love because love itself has nothing to do with fear. Love is all-embracing, all powerful and very GIVING. When we fear, we take instead, always taking from another to feed that fear. We seldom give anything because giving is aligned with trusting. If we don't trust, we do not give because we tend to be fearful of what others might do, or the consequences of that trust.

Fear also encourages us to dwell on the potential 'hurt' we might get from a relationship instead of the pleasure we will have. But pleasure always comes before any pain. It means that if we spend needless time worrying about the hurt we might have, not only will it gradually come back to haunt us, and also become a self-fulfilling prophecy, but we will miss out on the pleasure too, as we are likely to have no relationship at all while we are being fretful, or we just attract people who mean us harm. So we tend to stay in our fear but rob ourself of the joys of a partnership.

2. EXPRESSION. Many people are afraid to express how they feel, perhaps being afraid to tell someone that they love them, afraid to give a compliment, afraid to affirm someone they care about, or simply lack the basic social skills to have a decent conversation. For example, getting to know someone starts with questions, not just statements. We can make a lot of statements about ourselves but listeners will soon get bored with that. The best way to engage someone is with questions to show interest in them, while simultaneously giving us the answers we seek. So if we are afraid or too shy to talk, we will seldom fall in love in a big way because the greatest feelings of love come through communication, whether verbal or physical, with another. If we are afraid to express ourselves, and the other person is afraid to express themselves too, it can lead to lots of misunderstandings! Most often, though, it leads nowhere.

3. LETTING GO. Often people meet someone then try to control the relationship by laying down rules or burdening it with unrealistic expectations. But we should always let a relationship unfold before us and soon it will reveal where it is going. If it doesn't, we simply enjoy the moment and learn from the experience without expecting too much. Not everyone comes into our life for a long-term reason. Most people simply come to aid our growth.

From the day we are born until we die, we are on a journey of development and discovery. It means that we will meet all kinds of people who are relevant to that journey. It is our desire for perfection and seeing only our needs why we burden new meetings with our expectations and kill relationships quickly. Just let go and let the moment take effect. People always reveal themselves when we take the time to notice. Relaxing and accepting the situation also allows us to see what we want to see and reduce the potential for hurt.

In a nutshell, you will be able to tell if you have met "The One" if it feels right, if you enjoy being with that person, enjoy being expressive to them and trusting them, if you do not fear them or the future, if you feel very happy and joyful in their presence and if you have a truly sharing, caring and committed type of friendship. Furthermore, if you both appreciate and respect each other as you are and value one another greatly, the ingredients are there for a wonderful partnership.

Good luck in your search.:o)

Love....

One fine day, an old couple around the age of 70, walks into a lawyer's office.

Apparently, they are there to file a divorce.Lawyer was very puzzled, after having a chat with them, he got their story....

This couple had been quarreling all their 40 over yrs of marriage nothing ever seems to go right.They hang on because of their children, afraid that it might affect their up-bringing. Now, all their children have already grown up, have their own family, there's nothing else the old couple have to worry about, all they wanted is to lead their own life free from all these years of unhappiness from their marriage, so both agree on a divorce....Lawyer was having a hard time trying to get the papers done, because he felt that after 40 yrs of marriage at the age of 70, he couldn't understand why the old couple would still want a divorce..

While they were signing the papers, the wife told the husband...

"I really love u, but I really cant carry on anymore, I'm sorry.."

"Its o.k, I understand.." said the husband.

Lookin at this, the lawyer suggested a dinner together, just 3 of them,wife thought, why not, since they are still gonna be friends...At the dining table, there was a silence of awkardness.The first dish was roasted chicken, immediately, the old man took the drumstick for the old lady.."take this, its your favourite...

Looking at this, the lawyer thought maybe theres still a chance, but the wife was frowning when she answer.."This is always the problem, you always think so highly of yourself, never thought about how I feel, don't you know that I hate drumsticks?
Little did she know that, over the years, the husband have been trying all ways to please her, little did she know that drumsticks was the husband's favourite. Little did he know that she never thought he understand her at all, little did he know that she hates drummsticks even though all he wants is the best for her.
That night, both of them couldn't sleep, toss and turn, toss and turn...after hours, the old man couldn't take it anymore, he knows that he still loves her, and he cant carry on life without her, he wants her back, he wants to tell her, he is sorry, he wanted to tell her "I love you"...

He picks up the phone, starting dialing her number....ringing never stops..he never stop dialing....On the other side, she was sad, she couldn't understand how come after all these years, he still doesn't understand her at all, she loves him a lot, but she just cant take it anymore....phone's ringing, she refuses to answer knowing that its him..."whats the point of talking now that its over...I have ask for it and now I wanna keep it this way, if not I will lose face.."she thought...still ringing...she have decided to pull out the cord... Little did she remember, he have heart problems...

The next day, she received news that he had passed away...she rushed down to his apartment, saw his body, lying on the couch still holding on to the phone...he had a heart attack when he was still trying to get through her phone line....
As sad as she could be...she will have to clear his belongings.. .when she was looking thru the drawers, she saw this insurance policy, dated from the day they got married, with the beneficiary being her... And together in those file, there was this note...
"To my dearest wife, by the time you're reading this, I'm sure I'm no longer around, I bought this policy for you, though the amount is only $100k, I hope it will be able to help me continue my promise that I have made when we got married, I might not be around anymore, I want this amount of money to continue taking care of you, just like the way I will if I could have live longer. I want you to know Iwill always be around, by your side... I love you"

Tears flowed like river......


"When you love someone, let them know... You never know what will happen the next minute.... Learn to build a life together.. Learn to love each other. For who they are.. Not what they are..."

A Red Rose

A man stopped at a flower shop to order some flowers to be wired to his mother who lived two hundred miles away.

As he got out of his car he noticed a young girl sitting on the curb sobbing. He asked her what was wrong and she replied, "I wanted to buy a red rose for my mother. But I only have seventy-five cents, and a rose costs two dollars."

The man smiled and said, "Come on in with me. I'll buy you a rose." He bought the little girl her rose and ordered his own mother's flowers

As they were leaving he offered the girl a ride home. She said, "Yes, please! You can take me to my mother." She directed him to a cemetery, where she placed the rose on a freshly dug grave.

The man returned to the flower shop, canceled the wire order, picked up a bouquet and drove the two hundred miles to his mother's house.


Don't Send Artificial Loves to your parents. Give them the respect and courtesy they desire. They are your most precious Treasure, Care for them. God Forbid, if they leave this world then one can do nothing but regret

Why community?

Life in community is no less than a necessity for us – it is an inescapable “must” that determines everything we do and think. Yet it is not our good intentions or efforts that have been decisive in our choosing this way of life. Rather, we have been overwhelmed by a certainty – a certainty that has its origin and power in the Source of everything that exists. We acknowledge God as this Source.

We must live in community because all life created by God exists in a communal order and works toward community.

Have You Ever Ask This....?

Have you ever asked these questions to yourself?  "Am I wanted? Does anyone need me? " If no, you are a very lucky person. We all have our self-esteem. Along with our self-esteem, we also have a desire that someone should need us. That someone should want us. A mother is delighted when her children come shouting to her and ask for food. As the children grow up, they become self-reliant and move away. The mother is no longer wanted by them for anything. This creates a vacuum in her life, that she tries to fill with other work, but the satisfaction is not same. This is equally true for fathers. It is equally true with office workers who are depended upon for any task. If they feel that they are not wanted, they not only lose their self-esteem, but also feel very lonely

The desire of others to fulfil their needs connects us with them. It also gives us a great sense of self worth. We all have the inner desire that someone should depend upon us for a need that can be fulfilled only by us. Feeling of being wanted is very important to give us the sense of self worth. In every relationship , One needs the self-esteem, that comes from the feeling that one is wanted.

White Roses.....

Wood always makes noise with the change of weather, from cold to hot and damp to dry. Especially in the night - It is quite a natural noise and there is nothing evil in it.. all these fears are useless superstitions and must not be accepted...
We must rise above all those ignorant ideas and feelings, have true faith in the grace of the Lord and Health will naturally become much better....

Why Do I Fight With My Parents??????

You must be out of the house after a heated argument with your parents. You must be contemplating what caused you to storm your emotions at your parents. After the emotions cool down, a new thought may enter your relaxed mind "Why do I fight with my parents so much? Am I the only prodigal son/daughter, who hurt the feelings of my parents?" The answer is No! You are not alone but, a part of the universal aspect of quarrel between parents and children.Your parents have seen you from your infancy and taken important decisions for you at many times. They decided your costumes, food, primary educational institutions and daily schedule! During your childhood you were entirely dependent on their decisions and assistance.

You never thought of winning an argument against them, even when you were dissatisfied at their decisions.The entry into adolescence may bring a new feeling of individuality to you. You may visualize yourself as a person capable of deciding everything in life. Alas! Your attempts to develop your own identity may clash with the entire different identities of your parents.

Even though it is completely normal for teens to create own opinions, thoughts, and values about life, parents may not find it acceptable at many times. They may find your taste for rock music, skimpy clothes or parties utterly fatal and the above mentioned situation repeats so often.Your growth into a new person may cause many reasons for argument with your parents. You may pick up an argument with your parents as they comment on your friends, your attitude about sex or any other serious aspect. You may find their comments as intrusions and cannot control your emotions while arguing with them.The reason for their comments is that they have not yet got adjusted with you as a new person and will always be intent on protecting you and keeping you safe, no matter how old you are. The good news is that arguing will lessen as parents get more comfortable with the idea that you are grown up person, mature enough to take the decisions.

All healthy relationships have a base on the mutual adjustment and the same rule is applicable to your relationship with the parents. Since you and your parents have own individualities, it is only natural that to have a quarrel between you. However, after the emotions calm down find time to talk to your parents and communicate your point of view. Be a good listener and change your view points if, there is any genuine reason for their argument.You must remember that your parents were patient with you at many times of your growth. They may expect the same patience at least in small exchange from you. In another way the retired life or old age ailments may make the more vulnerable to quarrels. They may really want to talk to you at times and granting this wish may curtail many of your arguments.

Always remember that you will realize the true value of your parents only when you become a parent tomorrow!

ECHO OF LIFE

A man and his son were walking in the forest.Suddenly the boy trips and feeling a sharp pain.He screams, “Ahhhhh!”Surprised, he hears a voice coming from the mountain,”Ahhhhh!”Filled with curiosity, he screams: “Who are you?”, but the only answer he receives is: “Who are you?”This makes him angry, so he screams: “You are a coward!” and the voice answers: “You are coward!”He looks at his father, asking. “Dad, what is going on?”“Son,” the man replies, “pay attention!” then he screams,” I admire you!”The voice answers: “I admire you!”The father shouts, “You are wonderful!” and the voice answers: “You are wonderful!”The boy is surprised, but still can’t understand what is going on.Then the father explains, “People call this ECHO, but truly it is ‘LIFE!’. Life always gives you back what you give out! Life is a mirror of your actions. If you want more love, give more love! If you want more kindness, give more kindness! If you want more understanding and respect, give more understanding and respect! If you want people to be patient and respectful to you, give patience and respect! This rule of nature applies to every aspects of loves.”Life always gives you back what you give out.Your life is not a coincidence, but a mirror of your own doings.

Communism

Communism is a political ideology that seeks to establish a future, without social class, or formalized state structure, with social organization based upon common ownership of the means of production. It can be classified as a branch of the broader socialist movement. Communism also refers to a variety of political movements which claim the establishment of such a social organization as their ultimate goal.
Early forms of human social organization have been described as "primitive communism." However, communism as a political goal generally is a conjectured form of future social organization which has never been implemented. There is a considerable variety of views among self-identified communists, including Maoism, Trotskyism, council communism, Luxemburgism, and various currents of left communism, which are in addition to more widespread varieties. However, various offshoots of the Soviet and Maoist forms of Marxism-Leninism comprise a particular branch of communism that has been the primary driving force for communism in world politics during most of the 20th Century.